33. Boundaries and Expectations
About the episode:
About today’s guest, Dr. Jessica Metcalfe: Dr. Jessica is a strategic leadership and workplace culture consultant with a focus on self-intelligence and relationship intelligence. She is an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author who is on a mission to empower and unlock the inner voices of high-stressed high-achieving leaders. As a former dental oncologist and education director at one of the top 5 cancer centres in the world, Dr. Jessica knows first-hand the challenges that come with high-stressed careers including impostor syndrome, perfectionism, and burnout. To learn more about Jessica, go here: https://www.drjessicametcalfe.com/
Today, Jessica and I discuss:
how she grieved after the death of a friend and struggled to openly share her emotions
telling people how you want to nurtured and supported (rather than assuming they’ll know!)
Expectations and boundary setting with grief
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Quotes:
"Death to me was very familiar. So going to funerals and stuff and my parents never shied away from not taking us so we were always there... it was just kind of a part of the norm for me."
"I feel uncomfortable grieving with others. And so it's easier for me to just come home and manage those emotions and then process what just went down."
"Being that highly sensitive person and not realizing that that's what I was for a very long time... I felt like I needed to suck it up."
"There's certain glimpses that come into fruition where you're just like, oh man, life is short, and I need to really pay attention to it or what does this mean for me?"
"As that late teenage woman, I didn't know how to ask for what I needed at that point in time for fear of judgment."
"You can totally get cynical and irritable towards people who are reaching out to you... It's using words like being in a tornado. I like to use the word molasses, because that's what I find my sadness feels like."
"If you feel like you're doing it wrong, then throw it out the window, because there is no right or wrong way to grieve to process those emotions."
"The dark can also be a place where we heal, because the dark is where we rest. Where we sleep, where we get to dream. And that's not so scary."